Supporting your child through life transitions: Moving, divorce, or loss
Big life transitions can be challenging for both children and parents but they’re inevitable. How we tackle them with our children truly makes all the difference in mitigating the emotional repercussions. You can find several picture book options to help your children navigate their experience while traversing another’s through storytime HERE and below are a few tips to support you & your child with common life transitions:
Moving: According to a study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, moving to a new home can be one of the most stressful life events a person can experience. Here are some tips for helping your child cope with a move:
Involve your child in the moving process as much as possible. Let them help pack and decorate their new room to create a sense of ownership and control over the situation.
Explore the new neighborhood together. Take walks, visit the local park, and find new favorite spots to help your child feel more comfortable in their new surroundings.
Keep your routines consistent. Moving can disrupt your family's daily routines, but try to keep as much consistency as possible in your child's schedule.
Help your child stay connected with old friends. Encourage them to keep in touch through phone calls, video chats, or letters.
Be patient and understanding. Moving can be tough, and it's normal for your child to experience a range of emotions. Be patient and offer plenty of support and understanding.
Divorce: According to the American Psychological Association, divorce can be one of the most stressful events in a child's life. Here are some tips for helping your child cope with a divorce:
Be honest with your child. Explain the situation in age-appropriate language, and be honest about what's happening.
Reassure your child that they're not to blame for the divorce. Children may blame themselves for their parents' divorce, so it's important to let them know that it's not their fault.
Keep routines consistent. Divorce can disrupt a child's sense of security, so try to keep their routines as consistent as possible.
Encourage your child to express their emotions. Let your child know that it's okay to feel sad, angry, or confused. Encourage them to express their emotions in healthy ways, such as through drawing or writing.
Consider seeking professional support. Divorce can be tough on both children and parents. Consider seeking support from a therapist or counselor who can help you and your child cope.
Loss: According to the National Institute of Mental Health, the death of a loved one can have a profound impact on a child's mental health. Here are some tips for helping your child cope with loss:
Be honest with your child. Explain what has happened in a gentle and age-appropriate way.
Encourage your child to express their emotions. Let your child know that it's okay to feel sad, angry, or confused. Encourage them to express their emotions in healthy ways, such as through drawing or writing.
Share memories of the person who has died. Talk about happy memories and encourage your child to share their own.
Keep routines consistent. A consistent routine can provide a sense of stability during a difficult time.
Consider seeking professional support. Grief can be overwhelming, and it may be helpful to seek support from a therapist or counselor who can help you and your child cope.
According to the National Institute of Mental Health, around 4.4 million children in the United States experience a major life change, such as a move or divorce, each year. Think back to when you experienced your first BIG transition or major life change. How did it impact you then and even reflecting back on it now?
By being patient, honest, and supportive, and by seeking professional support when needed, you can help your child navigate these transitions with resilience and strength. Remember to validate your child's emotions and offer plenty of reassurance and love. Together, you can help your child navigate life's challenges and thrive.